|
|
Still Standing - George Chuvalo's
URL: http://www.mapinc.org/drugnews/v04/n676/a11.html
Newshawk: Herb
Pubdate: Fri, 30 Apr 2004
Source: Observer, The (CN SN)
Copyright: 2004 Carlyle Observer
Contact: observer@sasktel.net
Website: http://www.carlyleobserver.com/
Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/2915
Author: Dawn M. Barker
STILL STANDING - GEORGE CHUVALO'S
STRAIGHT-FROM-THE-HEART ANTI-DRUG TALK HITS HOME
From the lofty heights of being on the top 10 in the boxing world to the
devastating lows that came from losing a wife and three sons to drugs,
George Chuvalo has seen it all - and where such tragedy would have
knocked the punch out of many people, George Chuvalo is still standing.
"Still Standing" is the name of Chuvalo's anti-drug
presentation, a factual, heartbreaking, lay-it-on-the-line story that
pays tribute to his wife and sons, and cautions teens against the
dangers inherent in smoking, drinking and drugs.
Students from the White Bear First Nations, Pheasant Rump First Nations
and Ocean Man First Nations were present April 21 to hear Chuvalo speak
at the White Bear Education Complex.
With the exception of a few teachers, most of the people there had never
heard of Chuvalo, who retired in 1979 after fighting such legends as
Muhammad Ali, George Foreman and Smokin' Joe Frazier.
But they know him now. And they won't likely forget.
After his introduction, Chuvalo left the room while students watched a
20 minute documentary produced by CBC's investigative show "The
Fifth Estate", which documents Chuvalo's rise as a professional
heavyweight boxer, and his descent into a personal hell with the tragic
deaths of his two sons, Jesse and Georgie Lee, and his first wife Lynne.
Only near the end of the video, when his third drug-addicted son Steven
is shown onscreen in jail, talking about his hopes for the future, did
Chuvalo step back into the room.
Hearing Steven's voice, and seeing him onscreen gets Chuvalo into what
he describes as the "funk" needed to get him through the
presentation. That "funk" comes from the fact that even
as the family's problems were recognized on screen, its relentless
progression toward tragedy continued.
Steven died nine months after the video was produced, an unlit cigarette
between his fingers and a heroin needle sticking from his arm.
In a way, Chuvalo's recounting of the story is almost as painful as the
story itself. Rocking back and forth, fidgeting with the
microphone cord, Chuvalo seems to withdraw into himself as he gazes out
above the audience, drawn again and again into a past full of
unspeakable pain.
He is a parent who has lost three of five children, a husband whose wife
could not live with the tragedy, and a man who asks himself again and
again what he could have done to prevent it all.
The six-foot former Canadian champion recounted the seeming innocence of
the act that got his first son addicted to drugs. After a
motorcycle accident, his son Jesse accepted some drugs from a
"friend", which led to an addiction, and to his death.
One day in 1985, about nine months after that first ingestion of drugs,
Jesse walked to his bedroom in the Chuvalo home, put the barrel of a 20
calibre gun into his mouth, and pulled the trigger. He was 20
years old.
"He sealed not only his fate, but that of two of his brothers and
his mother," Chuvalo said.
Jesse's two brothers were also addicted by the time of his death, and so
strong was the pull of drugs that they were powerless to change that.
Chuvalo said that in his heart, he knew it was not a matter of whether,
but of when he would lose another son to drugs. Despite that
constant fear, he spent the next years rescuing his sons from overdoses,
bailing them out of jail after a series of botched robberies for money
and drugs, and trying to understand why it was happening.
He gave the students at White Bear a grim, stark view on the life of an
addict, describing the insanity of his sons' actions as they committed
crime after crime to obtain elusive highs. He pulled no punches in
describing the pain, the shame and the humiliation a drug addict and his
family undergoes.
In a halting, anguished voice he outlined in graphic and ugly detail the
grip that heroin had on his sons. He said that when they craved
the drug, even the sight of it would cause them to lose bowel control.
Only after they purchased and used the drug would they be able to think
clearly enough to clean themselves up.
"Every time I tell that story, I feel sick to my stomach. It
hurts me to talk about my sons that way, my beautiful sons. But I
think that if they were here, they would want to tell you what it's like
to be a dope fiend. It's a very apt name, 'dope fiend' - because
that's what you are if you take drugs - a fiend. The drugs make
you do things you'd never think of doing otherwise," he said.
Chuvalo recounted his anguish at having to revive his sons time and
again from deadly overdoses. At one point, Steven overdosed 15
times during a two month period.
Eight years after Jesse's demise, Georgie Lee finally obtained "the
ultimate high", and was found dead of a heroin overdose.
Two days after the funeral, Chuvalo's wife Lynne found a permanent way
to cope with the grief, swallowing a lethal mixture of prescription
drugs she'd confiscated from the boys' previous drug heists. She
lay down on Georgie Lee's bed, and died.
"I can understand her decision to do that now," he said.
"She couldn't live with the grief of losing two sons. I think
maybe, in some ways, it's harder on a mother than on a father, to lose a
child. A mother has that nine month headstart on love."
Steven's chain of robberies continued, and he was put in jail to serve a
lengthy sentence. At the time the Fifth Estate program was filmed,
Steven and his father were planning to travel across the country to take
their story on the road, to campaign against drug use. Sadly, the
addiction proved stronger than Steven's free will. Nine months and
15 days after the Fifth Estate tape aired, Steven took his final
overdose in his sister's empty apartment.
In honour of Steven and Jesse and Georgie Lee and Lynne, Chuvalo has
continued with his plan of campaigning against drugs. He has
visited over 300 schools, and in 1998 was presented with the Order of
Canada for his dedication to youth. Chuvalo has a website
dedicated to his anti-drug campaign, located at www.fightagainstdrugs.ca.
One of the factors that leads to drug addiction, Chuvalo is convinced,
is the way that society glamourizes smoking and drinking. He said
that when he visits young offenders' prison facilities, almost every
prisoner there smokes. Conversely, he said, students who have
demonstrable love and family support, and who take on responsibility for
themselves and their actions do not smoke.
He stressed the importance of developing a healthy sense of self-esteem,
which is needed in order to counteract peer pressure to experiment with
substances - and he said that self-esteem stems from one place - the
family.
Chuvalo said that a sense of love is the only thing that has kept him
going.
"There isn't a day that goes by that I don't say 'I love you' to my
[living] children and grandchildren. They tell me they love me,
too, and that is what has helped me through this.
"Every living person needs love. It makes you feel strong,
secure and appreciated. When you feel strong, secure, appreciated
and important you can deal with the difficult parts of your life.
The most important three words in life are 'I love you'. Say those
three words to your family, not just today, not just tomorrow, but every
day of your life," he urged.
"Do the best with your life that you can. Explore your full
potential. You deserve that, and you can't do it by doing drugs
and alcohol. The strength of your family ties will get you
through.
"This is the most important time in your lives. This is the
time when you make decisions about what your future is going to be like.
One day, all you beautiful young people are going to be just like me,
parents and grandparents. You're responsible for the children
you'll have someday, and those children's children. You owe it to
them to do your best."
Students at White Bear that day left with a powerful message to
consider.
And Chuvalo himself?
He left knowing he's done what he could to make a positive difference in
their lives. For Chuvalo, the fighter, the father, the activist,
the fight never ends.
|
|